I read a really good article today on 21ninety.com about the 5 things your very strong girlfriend won’t tell you. I found the article super insightful, but I wanted to go deeper and keep the conversation going by discussing 5 reasons it’s important to check in on your very strong girlfriend.

1. She’ll never tell you if she’s struggling. Your strong girlfriend prides herself on being just that: strong. She may find it difficult to show her most vulnerable  moments for fear of “letting people down.” This is why it is important to do the reaching out; because she’ll never volunteer the information freely

2. Being strong all the time is hard. When you’ve always got it together, people can sometimes take it for granted and might not fully appreciate the amount of effort it takes to pull off such a balancing act. So your very strong girlfriend needs opportunities to be tender and not so “together.”

3. Your very strong friend needs an outlet to be vulnerable. I know this from experience. Having been that friend who didn’t show my vulnerable side to family and friends, I often found myself feeling like I had no outlet to be “soft.” The constant front of having to be strong meant for me that I wasn’t releasing and recovering from negative  feelings which ended up manifesting in not so great ways. 

4. They can’t give forever . Imagine your very strong friends like a bucket of fresh water that is constantly being emptied and not filled. Eventually, the water will run out. Well, your very strong friend needs to replenish. They can’t always be the giving party because eventually there’ll be nothing to give. It is also important that for the sake of their mental and emotional health that we give into the lives of our strong friends so they too can be refreshed

5. Everybody needs some TLC! Humans thrive and survive with connection. Your very strong girlfriend is in the same need of the tender Loving Care as any one else, don’t be fooled by her strong front! 

So now you know why you should reach out to your really strong girlfriend, send that text, make that call, type that email. You can even use this script: “ hey friend, just checking in on you, and reminding you that you can always be vulnerable with me. 😘” 

Now see, that wasn’t hard at all now was it? 😂

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